Comment from Loretta about grandfathers alarmed me but I suspect she is onto something. Grand parents perhaps tend to not associate in ways that will influence decisions and conduct they could in an involved presence with grand children that can and will affect their making the right decisions in life.
Comment from Loretta about grandfathers alarmed me but I suspect she is onto something. Grand parents perhaps tend to not associate in ways that will influence decisions and conduct they could in an involved presence with grand children that can and will affect their making the right decisions in life.
While not holding myself up as an example, I have two grand daughters an hour away. I have from their births been actively in their lives as a codicil to their existences. In the screwed up time and place we exist in, grandparents need to be a source of solid dependable involvement in the lives of their grandchildren. As stated I was instrumental in yanking them from a filthy public school teaching anal sex in grade 2. A woke moron teacher was the problem, representative of the screwed up generation that followed mine, steeped in politically correct craziness beggaring description that has morphed into wokist insanity creating FITHS in every aspect of western SUCKciety.
Into a private school, made a huge change in my two grand daughters along with my weekly visits on weekends to stay Sat night and take them out every Sunday to eat in the morn before church which in itself, molded them to a defined embrace of a lifestyle and observation of scriptural rules.
Yesterday the oldest one who is 15 sent me her teacher's response to her marks in subjects beneficial to her. I never lose any opportunity to influence them to the good and I will never forget my minister who stated a few weeks ago we should never underestimate the influence a grand parent has on his grandchildren. And so it is I answered her text with one of my own consolidating and strengthening the relationships I have with her and her sister.
It was steeped in counsel but the element of cherishment went deep, that I am sure will draw her closer to me than ever before, and strengthen my influence on them both. Security and understanding are essential to teen girls especially, and I have that with some women in life as close friends more intelligent, stronger and a lot easier to look at than I am.
I will be sending my message back to her for she is desiring accolades which she got from me piled high with affection. The biggest protection a grandfather can give them is a sense of being cherished and valued for being who and what they are. That is a quintessential necessity to ensure their trust and well being. Oops! My grand daughter just sent me a response...one big heart that tells me I succeeded in my goal.
But of course this hurts me because an abused woman in the person of my best friend has told me the particulars in her life from an early age that even hearing about them tore huge chunks out of my heart. That is because she was never protected by her family and parents, never felt loved, and was criticized by all around her...parents, older sisters, fake friends, etc and after marriage by her inlaws.
She told me long after our initial meeting where she questioned me on specifics, that she was starved for love all her life. In attempts to make her happy, I had babied her, bought her gifts, fine dined and spent time with her, watching her opening up and her cautious demeanor gradually vanish. Noting my two grand daughters, I can comprehend the vacuum in her life and was/am awed by her strength to resist capitulation to a mental and physical destructive "deathstyle.
That knowledge has been used to impact and secure my two grand daughters, and continues and will to my end as will my close respectful friendship with my best friend. She needs me. My grand daughters need me. That is seen strongly without it having to be said though I tend to be affection towards the fairer gender as most here have noticed. And there are others as well in my life of the fairer gender who invited me into their own lives but in the same non romantic closeness women crave where they have control, are given understanding, cherishment, respect, and a two way trust.
Part One
Comment from Loretta about grandfathers alarmed me but I suspect she is onto something. Grand parents perhaps tend to not associate in ways that will influence decisions and conduct they could in an involved presence with grand children that can and will affect their making the right decisions in life.
While not holding myself up as an example, I have two grand daughters an hour away. I have from their births been actively in their lives as a codicil to their existences. In the screwed up time and place we exist in, grandparents need to be a source of solid dependable involvement in the lives of their grandchildren. As stated I was instrumental in yanking them from a filthy public school teaching anal sex in grade 2. A woke moron teacher was the problem, representative of the screwed up generation that followed mine, steeped in politically correct craziness beggaring description that has morphed into wokist insanity creating FITHS in every aspect of western SUCKciety.
Into a private school, made a huge change in my two grand daughters along with my weekly visits on weekends to stay Sat night and take them out every Sunday to eat in the morn before church which in itself, molded them to a defined embrace of a lifestyle and observation of scriptural rules.
Yesterday the oldest one who is 15 sent me her teacher's response to her marks in subjects beneficial to her. I never lose any opportunity to influence them to the good and I will never forget my minister who stated a few weeks ago we should never underestimate the influence a grand parent has on his grandchildren. And so it is I answered her text with one of my own consolidating and strengthening the relationships I have with her and her sister.
It was steeped in counsel but the element of cherishment went deep, that I am sure will draw her closer to me than ever before, and strengthen my influence on them both. Security and understanding are essential to teen girls especially, and I have that with some women in life as close friends more intelligent, stronger and a lot easier to look at than I am.
I will be sending my message back to her for she is desiring accolades which she got from me piled high with affection. The biggest protection a grandfather can give them is a sense of being cherished and valued for being who and what they are. That is a quintessential necessity to ensure their trust and well being. Oops! My grand daughter just sent me a response...one big heart that tells me I succeeded in my goal.
But of course this hurts me because an abused woman in the person of my best friend has told me the particulars in her life from an early age that even hearing about them tore huge chunks out of my heart. That is because she was never protected by her family and parents, never felt loved, and was criticized by all around her...parents, older sisters, fake friends, etc and after marriage by her inlaws.
She told me long after our initial meeting where she questioned me on specifics, that she was starved for love all her life. In attempts to make her happy, I had babied her, bought her gifts, fine dined and spent time with her, watching her opening up and her cautious demeanor gradually vanish. Noting my two grand daughters, I can comprehend the vacuum in her life and was/am awed by her strength to resist capitulation to a mental and physical destructive "deathstyle.
That knowledge has been used to impact and secure my two grand daughters, and continues and will to my end as will my close respectful friendship with my best friend. She needs me. My grand daughters need me. That is seen strongly without it having to be said though I tend to be affection towards the fairer gender as most here have noticed. And there are others as well in my life of the fairer gender who invited me into their own lives but in the same non romantic closeness women crave where they have control, are given understanding, cherishment, respect, and a two way trust.
Part 2 to follow