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(100) I wish I had a Dad - by Rachel Maldonado (substack.com); see this substack article 'I wish I had a dad'...I showcase some stacks I find good and worth the read
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I guess I was a lucky one, I was adopted at 9 months by two wonderful loving people, sadly my adopted mom died when I was 10 and my sister was 12. We were then raised by our dad, he was a great dad, he worked everyday to give us everything we needed or wanted, he was calm and understanding, I was a brat though as a kid, I was a kind child though, I loved my friends and my dad would comment on that, he would say "you should be a counsellor when you grow up. He was an awesome dad, he passed on New Years Eve in 1981.
your story is beautiful, now I am even happier sharing this...Hannajlehigh, try to link with Rachel, you will be surprised...I have told her do not openly share her details as there are sick perverts on internet...
such a nice story and how it turned, my oh my this substack attracts the best among us, I am so honored Hannahlehigh you are here.
Thank you
Thank you
Hannah,
My name is the same as yours, that’s what the letter “h” stands for in my website: rhmaldonado.com
I am adopted too 🙏 Rachel
Greg W Yesterday was only a test.
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Bilbo'sBitch Anybody have any suggestion where to go? I will not grovel here to be part of club-cuck on zog-stack
Bilbo'sBitch Being a black-jew, I can hardly be called a 'hater', IMHO the war is on, and my posts had too much 'truthiness'
Thank you for this update. I am sorry this has happened. I personally don't believe in "hate speech". There is free speech, and some can be hateful, but it is not the responsibility of a media platform to hide speech from anyone. Perhaps it was your style that offended, not sure.
I did not know you were black, or a Jew. I wish you well.
I have seen the devastation in some of my friends lives because of the absence of a father and here I am fighting to be in my children’s lives and a court system that expects black fathers to be absent and so we end fighting system and the mothers, while the poor children carry the scars for generations to come. I hope that I will find a lawyer who is a great father and understands what fathers are up against. Time for fathers to take back their rights.
excellent, I am in the fight with them, trying all ways to help...it is critical that fathers be mainstreamed...key role. my friend Ernest Guiste (if you are in Canada) is a great lawyer...his email (as he handles these types of abusive legal situations) is ejguiste@yahoo.com
tel: 416 782-3825...he may know of US lawyers in the area...I cant put my email in stack...I have tens of thousands of subscribers and I get 1000 mail a day...but if you can find it, write me
Delroy, it’s hard to fight for family but you are doing it. God bless 🙏 Rachel
Thanks for promoting this young woman Paul. I've been following her for awhile now thanks to your initial support for her. She has worthwhile things to share and this post is certainly among them. You're a good man Dr A.
greatful you shared...she does. she is topmost...outstanding...fighting with us...the good fight.
Clive, you are a good man also #StayInThisFight
Rachel
Thank you 🙏 Dr. Paul Alexander for your belief in me.
It’s an honor to be in this fight for freedom with you 🇺🇸
🌸 rachelmaldonado.substack.com 🌸
you are worth it...many are...you stand out. thank you for joining us in the fight...we have lots to do
your writing is touching...
Thank you for sharing this Paul.
“ Family is Everything “ is your opinion. For many like myself, Family gives me nothing except anxiety and Drama. When a family is super dysfunctional the only thing you want to do is get away. So I’ve had to implement boundaries with all my siblings. They are all either alcoholic or drug addicted. Nah, I’m good. I now have a lot more Serenity in my life.
you may be right too...and I agree, better to be on your on than a bad marriage or family...to each his or her own...but best to not walk alone. huge hugs for this sharing. we all find our way at some point. we find strength in our kids...we know of kids raised by2 parent homes who are twisted and warped, we know of kids raised by 1 parent guardian homes who do better than most, and we know of kids raised by no parent homes e.g. guardians, foster, etc. who do better than all...kids are unique, resilient, bring lots to the table...just need to be accepted, welcomed, loved, supported, and they will find their ways...need guidance, strength, looked into their eyes...need that...need to know there is a place called 'home'...need not be a building...home is in your heart...
I agree wholeheartedly!! I relish my own children/family. They absolutely do not reflect how I feel about my siblings. Far from. They have showed me what my siblings could not. That family’s can be healthy, loving and supportive. Somehow, I was able to influence them in a positive manner, by doing the opposite of my siblings. By taking the addiction piece out. My 9 Grandchildren have never seen GMA drink or drug
its called GENERATIONAL trauma, that is handed down to us by our parents and they had it given to them by theirs...and we hurt our kids by inflicting it on them..we need work to be done but fail to do it...on ourselves...we fail to admit certain things...so we hurt the kids...the aim is to break this generational trauma cycle and let our kids start a new journey...our parents at times damage us...create so much pain in us and our siblings for each is hurt but we cannot find the words to communicate and to share that we all are in pain...so if you raised the kids different then thats a victory and a prize...share and keep sharing...be a mentor...many need it...many are in pain...this generational trauma, got to break the cycle and say 'enough'...
Dr. Paul thanks for your insights. I’m very aware of this generational trauma. I too am an alcoholic but i I have stopped the madness. Not a drop in 18 years. Wish I would have done it sooner, but I did it, and continue to show my kids how it’s done. My 3rd is alcoholic and chose by seeing her Mom recover to do the same. You say “ Mentor” mentoring complete. We are both Grateful recovering Alcoholics. AA saved my life many years ago. I cannot say enough about this organization. Talk about support, mentoring, fellowship, service to others all being done to help the still suffering Alcoholic with nothing to gain from helping. Some of the most amazing people I have met. People with nothing willing to give you everything and nothing in return except your sobriety. Tell me where you can find that these days? No CEO’s to run the show, no profit margins, no one tells you have to do anything except try. No dues or money for AA membership, just a desire to quit drinking. That’s all. We should be talking out against one of the ugliest diseases around. A disease of the mind, body and Soul. And it’s legal. Legal to bust up family’s, legal to pile your car into someone else and Maime them for life or even death, the kids, insurance rates, court systems. Well the outcomes from the fallout of alcoholism is huge and disastrous. Where’s the data on this issue?
this is tremendous personal sharing Elliot, we are grateful you shared. You are an inspiration.
Thank you, just being truthful and grateful
Elliot, I say in my writings, that family can be who you choose. Read my substack, what I say about my arranged adopted dad who died 2 years ago. I, most of all, understand that boundaries are essential. It’s in my work too, I’m a Therapist and boundaries are ESSENTIAL
Family can be who you choose #FamilyOverEverything
God bless you 🙏 Rachel
What a tasteful article, and especially in the other side of the tracks wehere dads are 85% OWOL-
which is why BLDM---
thank you so much for this...kids need a dad and the black community have a serious issue on this and it is part the legal system too and mothers...kids get used as a power pawn and also many men are fuckers..downright waste of time and need some slaps up the head...
why dont you write Milton, I tried to promote your work but you got not articles yet...start, I will promote you...1.5 million people with the sharing that goes on, read my stack a night...2 to 300,000 base but it is shared repeatedly...I will promote
I see you have one coming, great...tap me when its out...
I have been seriously thinking of that, but at my age, i dont know if i can dedicate myself fully to that task because -i would be plugged into my macbook pro endlessly- i am 88
and have lost most of my friends, probably at least 80% - its getting so that i feel like the last man standing- ( i do not fear death)
try...if one each 2 days, just some of your thoughts...we will put it out...I am sure you have knowledge and gifts I dont and we all dont...so share it.
sometimes its as simple as reading someone else's work or a news report, and you embedding the link so we know and you give your view...it is how we share that sage wisdom you MUST have
Paul, I'm late today getting to this stack of yours, there were so many to read. I want to say, you are so encouraging to others, and I am even more impressed by you. Thank you for your work, and supporting the work and ideas of others.
Milton - I've been reading all these comments, and wanted to say, I had no idea you were 88. I'm 72. I have been considering writing a stack for awhile. I comment on so many others so often, I might as well, lol.
Sometimes I feel like all my real friends are here on Substack, since I also have no immediate family or close friends.
welcome to the family Dave...huge hugs...yes, write...we will share t and drive it...I am sure you like many, have lots to say...
I feel i am at last arrived at my “home”- thank you for the positive response, i still ride my motorcycle and occasionally go up for a flight around my area to see how badly the developers have screwed everyone- We will run out of potable water sooner than most think
Yes, water. I quit drinking tap water years ago, and bought distilled water by the gallon for home use. A month ago I bought a small water distilling machine. Now I can make a gallon of water in about 4 hours, and don't have to make a trip to a far away supermarket to buy it and lug it home.
Milton, thank you for your kind words #Grateful 🙏 Rachel
Just stating the truth- i loved my dad and he died in my arms, ˆnever felt so lost in my life
he was 48 , i was 20, i had to leave college and get a job nearby, luckily i was able todo
a local nite club gig, and met with some fantastic players like Benny Goodman’s lead horn player Doug Mettome- and Ethel Mermans lead horn player- i was very lucky to have such big brothers at a time that my heart was broken-My Dad was one of a kind-
what an amazing story...see, you have words that will help others...
Milton,
Very special
Beautiful story
Your dad was lucky 🍀 to have you too!