This story is confusing. When situations are not dealt with correctly from the start, it snow balls. Social media fills in gaps with falsehoods. Here is what I understand…I looked into this story immediately as I am an educator. 1) During my administrator’s training we were placed in different schools. There was a slim chance that sex wo…
This story is confusing. When situations are not dealt with correctly from the start, it snow balls. Social media fills in gaps with falsehoods. Here is what I understand…I looked into this story immediately as I am an educator. 1) During my administrator’s training we were placed in different schools. There was a slim chance that sex would happen in “my” school with constant surveillance. Of course, there is more to being a principal than walking around being a “police officer”. Our school board provided training on “red spots” or “hot spots” in the school. This way all teachers could contribute to the “well being” of the school. Communication was essential. During my training I remember how the guidance counsellor would approach the principal to fill her in with “ updates” on certain students.Success depends on how you operate your school. So I was saddened to learn of this story. When I searched for info : a) The girl had a relationship with the boy. He wasn’t lurking around the girls bathroom. It is hard to know details of the relationship but their relationship did include boy/ girl conversation. The info I retrieved said that they had consensual sex earlier on ( in the morning) then the boy arranged to meet the girl “same place” in the afternoon. b) They met in the bathroom in the afternoon but the girl did not want to have sex. So now the sex becomes rape and she goes home and tells her dad. c) No is no. The mother of the boy says she is aware that her son sometimes dresses with a skirt. I don’t think she understood why he did that. She also said that he was a teenage boy with raging sex hormones and an appetite for sex. ie…the boy did not understand no means no. He just understands that he got what he wanted earlier on.
So at this point there is no intervention, no counselling. The boy is transferred to a different school “ hush, hush”. I know nothing of the second school rape incident. The father/daughter relationship is a supportive relationship. The father goes to a school board meeting. Of course he is upset. Fromm the very beginning of my teaching career it was understood that the school children are put in my CARE. That is primordial and not the curriculum. A Phys. Ed. teacher knows this best always having to be careful to prevent accidents.
In my opinion, both the students and the parents were let down by an inept school system. A school system that could not admit that sex actually was taking place in its schools.
I am replying to my own comment. I forgot to say that from what the boy’s mother said, I do not feel that this is a “trans” story…ie he did not identify as trans. Rather, he put on a skirt to sneak into the girl’s bathroom just like the pseudo trans guys that put on the trans identity to get into women’s prisons. Again…any of this did not need to happen.
This story is confusing. When situations are not dealt with correctly from the start, it snow balls. Social media fills in gaps with falsehoods. Here is what I understand…I looked into this story immediately as I am an educator. 1) During my administrator’s training we were placed in different schools. There was a slim chance that sex would happen in “my” school with constant surveillance. Of course, there is more to being a principal than walking around being a “police officer”. Our school board provided training on “red spots” or “hot spots” in the school. This way all teachers could contribute to the “well being” of the school. Communication was essential. During my training I remember how the guidance counsellor would approach the principal to fill her in with “ updates” on certain students.Success depends on how you operate your school. So I was saddened to learn of this story. When I searched for info : a) The girl had a relationship with the boy. He wasn’t lurking around the girls bathroom. It is hard to know details of the relationship but their relationship did include boy/ girl conversation. The info I retrieved said that they had consensual sex earlier on ( in the morning) then the boy arranged to meet the girl “same place” in the afternoon. b) They met in the bathroom in the afternoon but the girl did not want to have sex. So now the sex becomes rape and she goes home and tells her dad. c) No is no. The mother of the boy says she is aware that her son sometimes dresses with a skirt. I don’t think she understood why he did that. She also said that he was a teenage boy with raging sex hormones and an appetite for sex. ie…the boy did not understand no means no. He just understands that he got what he wanted earlier on.
So at this point there is no intervention, no counselling. The boy is transferred to a different school “ hush, hush”. I know nothing of the second school rape incident. The father/daughter relationship is a supportive relationship. The father goes to a school board meeting. Of course he is upset. Fromm the very beginning of my teaching career it was understood that the school children are put in my CARE. That is primordial and not the curriculum. A Phys. Ed. teacher knows this best always having to be careful to prevent accidents.
In my opinion, both the students and the parents were let down by an inept school system. A school system that could not admit that sex actually was taking place in its schools.
I am replying to my own comment. I forgot to say that from what the boy’s mother said, I do not feel that this is a “trans” story…ie he did not identify as trans. Rather, he put on a skirt to sneak into the girl’s bathroom just like the pseudo trans guys that put on the trans identity to get into women’s prisons. Again…any of this did not need to happen.