Diane, I am back and I am concerned with your being criticized because it almost destroyed the gal I talk to and am close to in the mid west. Constant abuse, criticism, manipulation, etc were what hurt her and at one point she told me she never felt pretty and was starved for affection.
I gave her validation and verbal encouragement, took…
Diane, I am back and I am concerned with your being criticized because it almost destroyed the gal I talk to and am close to in the mid west. Constant abuse, criticism, manipulation, etc were what hurt her and at one point she told me she never felt pretty and was starved for affection.
I gave her validation and verbal encouragement, took her fine dining, etc and she responded to the respect and truth about herself I spoke from my place as a man.
Amazing gal, little surfer girl originally and beautiful on the inside in a way that none other I ever met possessed. We are still close and at a point where it took years, she told me she felt much better. I indicated may be it was time for me to move on. She told me that "I will always have time for you Edward and that was that.
There is no reason under heaven that a man and woman cannot be friends without any physical interaction. It was and is so with that gal and I have never felt so loved in all my life even at a distance. Not to start any problems here but the command among Believers is to "love one another." It does not say men love men and women love women. Your friend as a man and you as a woman has created a place of refuge It has been so for decades with her and I. There was not nor is there anything wrong with men/women friendships within bounds. I describe my closeness to that gal as a "peaceful easy feeling." A man cannot do that though I do have friends of my gender.
I'm older and single. I don't know if I will ever be in a relationship again. I'm good with that. I have been loved and that is a beautiful thing that some people never experience. Friendships are just as good. All is good
You never know what you can do for someone. Helping someone realize the beauty they are all about can only help move them beyond their self doubt. It's love of one another that makes the difference.
There are six grandchildren I have and my youngest daughter has two girls 13 and 14. I have always babied them and they attend church with me every Sunday. The youngest is especially attached to me and their grandmothers are involved in their lives as I am but not to the same degree.
In my work I have a client list of retired clients mainly women who lost their husbands. Men usually pre decease their wives. I see more and more widows and many are lonely and not used to it. A woman up the road is 80 and alone, and I text her every morning to see if she is alright. We do her maintenance work. At night I text her back to see if all is well. She is grateful for my involvement in her existence. My neighbor, a young woman has agreed when the time comes to look after the "aesthetic" issues it is not my place to be involved in. (bathing her, doing her laundry, etc) Known her for over 2 decades and expect to be there to enable her to live in her house until her end which is her desire. I know one day she will not answer my texts and I will go there and find her deceased. She is happy and her two children and grandchildren visit her regularly. In the country people tend to aid others a lot.
I do visit with her at times until she is tired and needs to sleep.
She is not seeking a relationship having others around her of family and friends. I hope you have some yourself and relatives too with both willing to aid you.
You do have a very balanced and solid grasp of reality and your conversation does give vent to your character as a good woman.
Yesterday my minister gave another amazing sermon. The church had humble beginnings but now is a vibrant mix of young couples with adorable little children. It has a congregation of 200 and a sturdy balance of a yearly 400, 000. budget. People are fine, but only because of the true presentation of the Word by a real minister.
Diane, I am back and I am concerned with your being criticized because it almost destroyed the gal I talk to and am close to in the mid west. Constant abuse, criticism, manipulation, etc were what hurt her and at one point she told me she never felt pretty and was starved for affection.
I gave her validation and verbal encouragement, took her fine dining, etc and she responded to the respect and truth about herself I spoke from my place as a man.
Amazing gal, little surfer girl originally and beautiful on the inside in a way that none other I ever met possessed. We are still close and at a point where it took years, she told me she felt much better. I indicated may be it was time for me to move on. She told me that "I will always have time for you Edward and that was that.
There is no reason under heaven that a man and woman cannot be friends without any physical interaction. It was and is so with that gal and I have never felt so loved in all my life even at a distance. Not to start any problems here but the command among Believers is to "love one another." It does not say men love men and women love women. Your friend as a man and you as a woman has created a place of refuge It has been so for decades with her and I. There was not nor is there anything wrong with men/women friendships within bounds. I describe my closeness to that gal as a "peaceful easy feeling." A man cannot do that though I do have friends of my gender.
I'm older and single. I don't know if I will ever be in a relationship again. I'm good with that. I have been loved and that is a beautiful thing that some people never experience. Friendships are just as good. All is good
You never know what you can do for someone. Helping someone realize the beauty they are all about can only help move them beyond their self doubt. It's love of one another that makes the difference.
Diane Eddington
4 hrs ago
I'm older and single. I don't know if I will ever be in a relationship again.
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There are six grandchildren I have and my youngest daughter has two girls 13 and 14. I have always babied them and they attend church with me every Sunday. The youngest is especially attached to me and their grandmothers are involved in their lives as I am but not to the same degree.
In my work I have a client list of retired clients mainly women who lost their husbands. Men usually pre decease their wives. I see more and more widows and many are lonely and not used to it. A woman up the road is 80 and alone, and I text her every morning to see if she is alright. We do her maintenance work. At night I text her back to see if all is well. She is grateful for my involvement in her existence. My neighbor, a young woman has agreed when the time comes to look after the "aesthetic" issues it is not my place to be involved in. (bathing her, doing her laundry, etc) Known her for over 2 decades and expect to be there to enable her to live in her house until her end which is her desire. I know one day she will not answer my texts and I will go there and find her deceased. She is happy and her two children and grandchildren visit her regularly. In the country people tend to aid others a lot.
I do visit with her at times until she is tired and needs to sleep.
She is not seeking a relationship having others around her of family and friends. I hope you have some yourself and relatives too with both willing to aid you.
"You never know what you can do for someone."
You do have a very balanced and solid grasp of reality and your conversation does give vent to your character as a good woman.
Yesterday my minister gave another amazing sermon. The church had humble beginnings but now is a vibrant mix of young couples with adorable little children. It has a congregation of 200 and a sturdy balance of a yearly 400, 000. budget. People are fine, but only because of the true presentation of the Word by a real minister.